Comments on Living in the Moment: Panic

Moves are always so stressful but I think you'...

2012-01-29T17:15:20.427-08:00

Moves are always so stressful but I think you're handling it better than a lot of others!

O Brittany I'm sorry! If it makes you feel any...

2012-01-26T19:42:54.443-08:00

O Brittany I'm sorry! If it makes you feel any better I think your handling it as well as can be expected. Any kind of change or not knowing causes me to have some extreme anxiety- I get extremely stressed, crabby at everyone, and burst out in tears over the littlest things. I don't have any advice for you but to say your not alone!

I would be the same way! Thinking about moving in ...

2012-01-25T17:39:43.823-08:00

I would be the same way! Thinking about moving in the winter is enough to make me feel crazy! I am use to summer moves where I have more time to take care of everything. It will all happen one way or another. Hopefully you will be getting more details soon.

I have an amazing ability to let things just roll ...

2012-01-25T13:36:53.911-08:00

I have an amazing ability to let things just roll off my back. Maybe because I've had some really effing aweful things happen to me. Maybe it's just my disposition. The problem is that I AM still a control freak about certain little things. And, every once in a while, a little thing will throw me into an insane tailspin of stress and frustration. I've been feeling it a little lately, and I can't even exactly pinpoint the cause, but I think it has to do with the amount of clutter in my home.

The chapter I'm currently reading in "The Tipping Point" talks about how the biggest reactions in humans come from the most benign seeming environmental cues. Seems pretty darned accurate.

I have no words of advice. Sorry.

Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life has become my answer to everything, though. And she addresses the need to control a lot.

And did I get booted from the hippie group or am I just an internet weenie and can't figure out how to open it back up?

I am not a planner. Or an organizer. But? I hate n...

2012-01-25T11:07:38.268-08:00

I am not a planner. Or an organizer. But? I hate not knowing anything. B has almost no details of our trip in March and it's KILLING me. And it's just a 4-day trip!!!

I felt this way forever and ever. I had mini panic...

2012-01-25T10:30:50.533-08:00

I felt this way forever and ever. I had mini panic attacks ALL.THE.TIME up until my daughter was born.

That totally changed me and I'm not saying I don't still have the occasional attack, but I've had to let go of so many things this past year because if I didn't I would have never been able to function.

So I guess I've learned to be one of those "let it go" people, but I totally get what you're saying.

I worry a LOT. My husband doesn't worry enough...

2012-01-25T08:19:49.715-08:00

I worry a LOT. My husband doesn't worry enough. Somehow he keeps me at bay most of the time, but there are those moments where I lose it. It's difficult to deal with sometimes.

Praying for you. You know where to find me if you need to talk/vent/cry/anything.

I am SUCH a control freak! That's why I make s...

2012-01-25T07:07:11.976-08:00

I am SUCH a control freak! That's why I make such an amazing wedding planner! I. Get. Things. Done. Period. End of story. Give me a list and if I can get everything on the list done in the next hour...I'm your girl. I hate to wait. I hate when things are not done EXACTLY the way I want them done and WHEN I want them done. So, I hear you! Yesterday would of driven me bananas! I probably would of yelled...definitely yelled. So, don't feel bad! I hear ya! Hang in there, girl! Hopefully, your whole housing situation will work itself out soon! :)

I sympathize, I really do. Because we are so alike...

2012-01-25T05:53:21.083-08:00

I sympathize, I really do. Because we are so alike in the planning and detailing. I don't know how I would handle this. Just keep writing about it and planning. It will be over soon. I'm sorry that's not really helpful.....

I'm the same way with needing to be in control...

2012-01-25T05:35:08.941-08:00

I'm the same way with needing to be in control, have a plan and a list and a back up plan. I decide something and then second guess my decision over and over. I completely understand.

This has got to be SO difficult for you and your family to constantly be moving and I dont know that I'd be able to "get used to it".

I'll be thinking of you and your family and praying that everything turns out ok without you losing your mind over it!

~Laura

I was always all about being in control until real...

2012-01-25T05:17:34.701-08:00

I was always all about being in control until reality crashed in around me and I felt completely and totally lost in a situation I felt I had no control over.

What I've learned is that the only thing I can change is me. So when the anxiety starts and the worry begins, perhaps write it out? Sometimes when it's written out it's not quite so scary? What can you do in that moment that will help you feel more in control? You mentioned last week that you were looking at base floor plans and researching areas. Would that help now?
It's a natural wonderful trait to be a planner, and executor, for sure! It's also accompanied by the worry factor but if you can find a way to channel it this might help.