Wednesday, May 5, 2010

And Then I Saw Him: Part 2

I hate to disappoint you all.

But the rest of my weekend with my husband was probably only exciting to me.

It was basically three days of me being shellacked to his leg.

I wasn't letting go of that man if it killed me.

I'd have followed him into a little boy's room if he'd let me.

Basically, we just lazed about and held hands and walked around town and hugged and ate out and kissed and shopped and cuddled and toured the historic district and, well, you get the picture...

We were together, which is all we wanted.

But as far as the rest of the world is concerned, when it comes down to it, we're not terribly exciting people.

After all, we spent all of Friday driving around and finding all my favorite places: Sam's Club, the craft store, Old Navy, and - my home away from home - Target.

Trust me, when I saw the big red bull's eye on the horizon, I screamed with joy.

And sheer relief that I wouldn't have to live in a town so forsaken that it didn't have a Target.

"You didn't act that excited even when you saw me," my husband said, rolling his eyes.

"That's because Target hasn't lost more than 80 pounds and still looks the same as she always has," I replied.

Then I kissed him.

Because I love him, and I was with him in my favorite place in the whole wide world: The Target parking lot.

Then, in new heights of excitement, we ate dinner at Carraba's and went to bed before midnight.

The next day, we toured the historic part of the city, where I fell head over heels in love with everything my eyes could see. Stores and markets and restaurants and landmarks and boats and docks and piers and dear heavens, my Southern blood is pumping just thinking about it.

The hubs and I picked out about 63 restaurants we wanted to try out and selected several tours we planned to take family and friends on when they came to visit.

The hubs explained a bunch of nautical terms to me, which I pretended to understand, and then I forced him into a candy shop where they made their own taffy. I explained the terminology associated with pralines and coconut and chocolate-covered strawberries, and once again, we were both speaking the same language.

There was more shopping and eating and beach-combing later that day. We got lost about 17 different times, although, in my defense, this time it wasn't all my fault.

My sailor boy was supposed to be guiding me with his new cell phone's map gadget, which apparently meant saying things like, "Oh, wait, um, you should have turned left about two blocks ago."

It was the few times that weekend I looked at my husband without a smile on my face.

Well, that and the time when we went in to see the base housing director.

We had been told that flirtation would get you everywhere with these women in the housing office, and this girl wanted a tour of every model I could possibly see.

So, I gave my husband a good old pep-talk, something along the lines of, "Now you get in there and bat those eyelashes and smile and compliment the heck out of her figure because Momma wants a brand new house!"

My husband, however, maintained his decorum and respect. He was nothing if not upstanding and reverent. Not an eyelash was batted. He didn't even try to subtly flex his biceps.

And all Momma got was three printed-out floor plans of the possible housing models we could be assigned come June.

Not that that stopped me from drawing out my newly decorated dream home in spades once we got back to the hotel room. I'd gone so far as to draw in my plum-colored guest bathroom shower curtain when my husband told me to shut up and put the schematics away.

Sunday was more morose.

I contemplated exactly how I could call the school and tell them, "Remember when I said I'd finish out the school year before moving? Yeah, well, I changed my mind. I'm not coming back. You're going to need a permanent sub for the next five weeks. Tell the kids I love them!"

I also wondered how I could fake an injury that would require me to be hospitalized immediately and would keep me in South Carolina with my hubby for at least another week.

I even debated simply staging a sit-in, of sorts. Or, as I was calling it, a Cling-On.

I planned on grabbing my husband around the waist firmly and not letting go until everyone agreed it would be better for my mental stability to just let me stay there already and move into our house early.

But apparently, my mental stability wasn't all that important to anyone else but me.

And somehow or other, I found myself having to say good-bye to my husband.

I cried; I may have even screamed. I acted like a petulant child.

And then I left.

Six hours later, I was still weeping as I pulled into my driveway.

Even the schematics for our possible new homes couldn't cheer me up.

The next five weeks couldn't pass fast enough.

I knew then that I'd always have this slightly sick feeling in my stomach; this aching in my heart that let me know a key part was missing.

Later that night, on the phone, as I sat at my computer desk all alone, I broke into hysterical sobs when the hubs called me to say goodnight.

I hated, in that moment, everything about what I was going through.

It stood in stark contrast to the weekend I'd just had.

So full of love, so full of laughter, so full of moments of rolling over in bed in the middle of the night to find my husband finally laying there.

I wanted that back.

Thirty-eight more days left to go...
***
For those of you that missed it, here's Part 1.

And thank you all for your support throughout all of this. You really have carried me through the hardest bumps in this road.

And as for the rest of you, have a wonderful Wednesday! Workout Wednesdays will return next week, but I'll be back tomorrow with some more normal ramblings!

32 comments:

PaigeR530 said...

I'll help you count! Sounds like a wonderful weekend, I'm glad you got to see him and have such a great time!

KatiePerk said...

Whoohoo! you will be a South Carolinian before you know it.

Mrs. Potts said...

Smiling, giggling & tearing up - all in one post.

I know that you had a wonderful time & I'm excited you got a taste (brief though it may be) of SC.

You'll be with him soon & I can only imagine how wonderful that is going to feel!

xo

Krysten @ After 'I Do' said...

I am just so happy for you 2. Oh and Target... my very favorite place. In fact... that's where my interview is for. Eek!

Traci said...

Hang in there- give the kids an in-class essay that will cause you all sorts of grading stress- that always makes the year end faster for me!

Becky K. said...

It will go quickly. Those crazy students of yours will do their best to distract you. And we bloggy friends will be there for you.

Hugs,

Becky K.

Hilary Lane said...

I remember that same feeling when my husband was at home with my family & I was stuck in school. Of course it wasn't nearly the same as having a hubby in the military, but I remember feeling like I was left behind, even though it was just for a couple of weeks.

I hope it goes by super fast for you!!! I'll be praying that it does! Good luck, girlie!

Adorably Distracted... said...

It will go SOOOO quick! When I wanted my summer to go by quickly so that I could be together with hubs again, I filled every moment that could possibly drag on with working out. I'd go to work, go to the gym, come home, eat dinner, shower, little tv and bed... I was so busy it flew by!!! Good luck love!

Michelle said...

I've never been to that historic town where the base is but it looks fabulous. I told hubby he will have to take me there someday to visit.

I cannot imagine how leaving the second time was. I know you told me this but your hubby is a nuke and will be in A school and power school for awhile, right? No deployment in the near future?

When hubby graduated and had a hard time finding a job he talked to a recruiter about their officer program, teaching power school at that same base but problem is he would eventually have to go back to sea, the part he hated because he was gone all the time, so he passed. I am not sure how I would do as a military wife but I have a lot of respect for his friends who are still in the military and all the sacrifices they and their families make.

Gina said...

Ohhh, I loved this post. I am so sorry that your drive back was so hard...I wish I would have called you. I'll call you soon, though! I had a dream last night that you had another Florida girl blogger meetup and I was there this time! :)

Lucky in Love said...

I know it's tough...girl. But you'll get through it! You're almost done :)

brown eyed girl said...

Awww, sounds like an amazing weekend together! How can I help make the time pass faster?

XOXO

Jess said...

I'm glad you had a good weekend and am sad that the drive home was so hard. I wish you would have called.

I vote for a meet-up before you leave for good.

Lindsey said...

This post is just too sweet for words! I think I smiled the entire time I was reading!

myletterstoemily said...

oh, you poor thing.

i know this is so hard, but i will
pray that the Lord will put some
sweet purpose to your steps to
make the time pass more quickly.

blessings,
lea

Lauren @ Dreams Take Flight said...

So sweet...I'm glad you had a good time with your hubs! Your writing makes me giggle in the best way. I hope these five weeks go so quickly for you! You will be in SC before you know it. :)

Lisa said...

You'll get through it! It'll feel like it's dragging, but it'll be done before you know it! Such a great feeling to be able to spend that time with him, though, isn't it? :)

Molly Lou Gifts said...

It really is the little thigs in life. I am so glad you had a wonderful weekend and one that gave you a brief glimpse in to what weekends will be like when you get in this great state. :) Target really is a dream. I can tell you where most of the Targets are from Charleston up to me. :)

I'll help with the countdown. Did you make one of those fun paper chains???

Have a great day!

Lucy Marie said...

I just read both parts. I'm so glad you enjoyed your weekend together. I hope that these next 5 weeks FLY by!!

anonymous prep said...

I'm crossing my fingers that the next few weeks fly past!

Hi, I'm Susan! said...

so glad you had such a relaxing time with your hubby! praying these next 5 weeks fly by for you until you are together again!

...::Heather @ Mrs. Southern Bride::... said...

Awe...I am truly hoping the days go by super fast for you!!!! :D

Melissa G. said...

I'm glad you got to see and get to know the area where you will be moving to.
I'm looking forward to visiting some of those places with you when we visit!
So sorry you had to say goodbye again! Why doesn't it get any easier the more we do it?

Sonya said...

Sounds like your new place will be great! So glad you had a good weekend and I pray those next 5 weeks go super fast! I sure want them to for me too!

Whitney said...

Oh, I just cried too! These coming days will pass before you know it!

Crazy Shenanigans said...

Aw, I'm hoping the next few weeks pass quickly!

Samantha said...

Glad you had such a great time! I liked reading this one just as much as the first one.

Annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd, you're down to a month as of a week from today! Huzzah indeed!!

Heidi Renée said...

Gosh, I don't think anyone really gets to tour base housing before being dumped into whatever unit they have available. We didn't know anything going in, but it turned out fine in the end.

Taylor said...

I loved your story!!!!!

I know all too well how torturous your seperation is. You know you can be with him but there is something holding you back. Now that Im down to my last 12 days, they are going by so slow. The last year has flown by, but now time is starting to creep. I hope your 5 weeks flies too. I know it sucks.

Michelle said...

Hooray for Target! ;)

Hang in there, girl...you'll be back with your sailor before you know it.

Love you for sharing this...thank you.

Jules said...

I am SO happy that you were able to spend the weekend together and also get familiar with your soon-to-be new surroundings. It sounds like you’ll have everything you need nearby, but most importantly your hubby :)

I would love to hear what the school would have said you weren’t coming back ;)

I know you’ll make it through these last few weeks and I’m here if you ever need to chat…xoxo

Lil' Woman said...

Ahhhhh...I can't wait till you two are reunited for good....and I can drive down and visit you in S.C.!!!